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How To Create A Healthy Self Talk

How To Engage In Healthy Self Talk

Would you talk to another person the way that you talk to yourself?

Self Talk

It’s a thing you do day in and day out - whether you realize it or not - and it has a huge impact on the way you feel about yourself, your achievements, and how you think you’re perceived by others. This ongoing internal dialogue that you have with yourself affects your self esteem and your self confidence and it says a lot about the way you view the world: your beliefs, your ideas, and more. When you start to analyze it this way, it’s easy to see that self-talk, that inner voice running commentary in your mind, influences your life and your outlook in a big way. So, it’s time to ask yourself: Is your self-talk positive or negative?

If you’re constantly critiquing yourself, putting yourself down, or reminding yourself of your past or potential future failures, you are most likely engaging in negative self-talk, and I’m sure I don’t have to tell you how damaging this can be. On the flip side, positive thinking, optimism and healthy self-talk are good for more than just a rosy outlook on life.

Positive self-talk can actually help relieve stress and lessen anxiety, aid in problem solving, and help you cope with challenges in your life. Here are some tips to help you change your inner dialogue from negative to positive!

Tips For Positive Self-Talk

Listen In : Start listening in on your inner conversations instead of just letting them happen automatically. Before you even try to make any changes, simply listening to and honing in on your self-talk is a great place to start.

Refocus Your Mind

Don't try to clear your mind or avoid thinking altogether, but watch your thoughts. When you start to engage in negative self-talk, stop, take deep breaths, and refocus your mind.


Start a meditation or relaxation practice. Pull up a youtube guided meditation for positive thinking to help you slow down and manage your thoughts. These practices have tons of other great benefits too for stress reduction, and overall well-being.

Incorporate Affirmations

Start and end your day with positive affirmations. Choose a few that really mean something to you and your unique situation that reaffirm your value and your self-worth.

Say them out loud, in front of the mirror and with conviction.

You’ll be surprised at how a few confidently spoken affirmations can make you feel.

Practice Gratitude

Thankfulness and gratitude can have a huge impact on your outlook on life. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Keep adding to your list, either mentally or journaling it out, and watch your self-talk grow more positive each day.

Turn “Failures” Into Learning Moments

People fail at things, it is inevitable. The important thing is what you do and how you frame those supposed failures in your mind. Try to look at your life as something that is constantly evolving, and always learning and you can switch that inner negative dialogue from failure to one of growth and new knowledge.

Make Friends With Your Mind

There’s no sense in fighting with your mind. Be gentle and patient with yourself as you evolve. Your negative inner dialogue was developed over the course of your lifetime in order to protect you, so you might not be able to reverse these thinking patterns overnight. Just remember that you are in charge of your thoughts and feelings.

Healthy self-talk is imperative not only for a positive outlook on life but also for your self-confidence, self-esteem and overall self-worth. Follow the tips above to help refocus your mind and beef up that healthy, positive self-talk.

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